Not a blasted clue.
Oh, I can tell you how a therapist does it. But how does that translate into real life relationships? That’s a really tough one. I can’t say I have mastered it yet. And I have been tackling it for years and years. Being on the wrong side of a defensive person is so taxing, so frustrating. There’s lots written about dealing with one’s own defensiveness, but I haven’t found much at all that’s helpful about how best to cope with someone else’s defensive behavior.
That’s how difficult this one is. But I’m working on it. Why it’s so difficult to deal with.
Tune in for part I: How it Works.
Then we’ll get to Part II: What a defensive person should/could do.
and Part III: What to do when you’re on the other side of someone’s defensiveness.
And please. If you have any ideas about what works (or doesn’t), write a comment! I know I’m not the only one having trouble with this one!
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