Raising your voice. Yelling. Screaming, even. Threats. Put downs. Innuendo. Hurling insults. Bullying.
They may be effective shutting people up. They may put others in their place, all right. They may get you heard, maybe even listened to.
But they are only the booby prize, a weak facsimile of real, demonstrable strength. Strength under pressure, strength with grace, strength of purpose, strength of character, strength to count on — that strength is quiet, focused.
The strong person needn’t react; the strong person considers, and acts only when and how it best suits her and her goals.
The strong person needn’t threaten; the strong person simply DOES.
The strong person needn’t announce; the strong person simply DECIDES FOR HIMSELF when, if, how to take action.
The strong person needn’t justify or defend; the strong person simply ASSUMES the right to her own position and power.
The strong person needn’t harden into position or get stuck in “being right”; the strong person can afford to listen. And to change his mind. Even to admit to being wrong.
Because it is the coward who cannot face being wrong. It is the coward who must be right, rather than get it right.
The truly strong welcome the opportunity to learn, to change, to grow stronger. Not by digging in their heels and closing down to other views or others’ views. The strong trust enough in their inner strength to be flexible, vulnerable and open to change. And in so doing, their quiet strength triumphs.
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